When was the last time you spent time alone – like really alone, not with your parents, significant other, friends, roommates?

It sounds relaxing and soothing to some degree – but also can be a terrifying thought. As someone who is always usually surrounded by people, whether it’s coworkers, my parents, siblings, my significant other – moving across the country and into my own place I’ve had to learn to “be alone.” Long distance has been really difficult for me – and I won’t sugar coat it and say that I haven’t struggled. I got to some dark places mentally with depression due to the distance – I always had a best friend I could do something with, even if my other friends couldn’t make it out. But was I leaning on a crutch? I felt like my happiness had become dependent on my significant other, and now that we are doing long distance for the time being – I found myself always miserable. Alas, I am finally feeling a bit better, once I had to accept and learn how to be alone. The month of June was a rather difficult month for me – I rarely hung out with friends, as everyone seemed to be really busy with plans, except for me. I really struggled with the fact that multiple Saturday nights in a row, I didn’t have anything to do. Netflix marathon once again.

One Saturday I got tired of sitting at home. After several failed attempts at text plans, I decided I was going to go out and do things by myself. I went for a walk by a park near my apartment, came across a beautiful rose garden where I sat and did some sketching, and then I decided I would go watch a movie I really wanted to see. I drove myself to the theater area early, and found a nice restaurant to get dinner and a drink. I was taking myself out on a date, it was great. I then went and watched Deadpool 2, and honestly I had fun. I didn’t need someone else to be there for me to have a good time. After that day, I realized I can be happy on my own, and not feel like it’s not worth doing things because I don’t have anyone else to do it with me. Since then, I’ve taken myself out to dinner at sushi restaurants, because, well, I wanted sushi!

I felt like that was a learning experience I had to go through – to learn how to be happy on my own, and not let me define my self worth by whether my friends could make it or not. As much as it sucked, I feel like a better person and have grown through that experience. Now I feel like I finally have a set group people I hang out with more regularly, and it just took some time to find my regular crew/group.

Anyway, here is a casual outfit I wear to work, and I think it’s a perfect summer outfit for cooler nights. The flowy top with the peekaboo shoulder cut out and lace/flowy fabric is perfectly flirty, from Oasis. I also regularly wear these dark wash jeans from American Eagle – my go to pants. I paired the outfit with pretty comfy sandals, also from American Eagle, or can glam it up with these strappy black heels I got from JustFab – I love them! And they’re comfortable! I’ve actually worn them to go out clubbing!

Have you spent time alone or taken yourself out to a movie or dinner on your own? Let me know what you have done on your own, and if you haven’t tried it – I highly recommend it. You might surprise yourself at how content you are doing what you want, when you want 🙂 Let me know in the comments below.

xo

Andrea

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

Andrea styles outfit at beach

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